I asked my son to do something that at this point shouldn’t be a battle at all. But it was. I asked my son to brush his teeth before bed. I know I know, what a terrible mom! As soon as I asked, his refusal kicked on, his silliness increased, he was delaying, delaying, delaying.
I was able to talk to him after the power struggle and in fact audio recorded so I could hear him and learn what was getting in his way.
HE SPILLED THE MOST IMPORTANT DETAILS! And I’m sharing them with you!! Get ready to understand your kids like never before! I am breaking down each sentence and the peer reviewed studies that back up everything he is saying!!! It’s wild and so so important to know!
🚨FIRST EVER ADHD BEHAVIOR BLUEPRINT 🚨LIVE EVENT IS HAPPENING!!🚨
You’re having the same power struggle over the tasks that HAVE to get done. Homework, teeth brushing, putting ONE piece of clothing away, bedtime… heaven forbid you ALSO ask that they speak kindly during this process. 🤯
The level of overwhelm, dysregulation, and frustration you’re living with day to day is real and it’s unfair. 🙅🏼♀️This is NOT what you pictured parenting to look like, and this version of you as a parent, is not aligning with your values.
You want to be a kind, accepting, patient person but you end up snapping or getting into your ADHD kid’s feelings with them.
🎉But that all changes now! 🎉
You’re going to be able to stop walking on eggshells, stop feeling utterly defeated and like you’re making all the wrong choices, and ACTUALLY KNOW how you and your child can get through both transitions and all the everyday “must do tasks” without yet another fight! AND, you don’t need to repeat yourself to the point of yelling!
Imagine feeling grounded and proud of yourself for navigating the day with regulation instead of multiple yelling matches.
There are many ADHD strategies out there, but after working exclusively with severe high conflict families, I’ve filtered out what doesn’t work for ADHD kids (*cough gentle parenting) and combined my education, research & lived experience into the core A.B.L.E. Method.
You do not need to have the same battle every day. It starts with regulation, a plan, some practice reps, and a lot of reinforcement. Not sure how that looks in real life? Don’t worry! I’ve got your back in a 2 day live event (well on zoom but with me😂) where we go over YOUR repeated battle and we BUILD YOUR PLAN so all you have to do is execute it!
January 9th & 10th, 2027 (9am-11am PST both days) *Recorded for those who can’t attend live.
No more second guessing, no more confusion, just a proven strategy to support your power struggle.
This live event IS FREE to all existing ResponseABLE Community members!
So come to a free masterclass or just JOIN THE PROGRAM, and get ready to have me walk side by side with you as we map out your 2027 behavior plan so you can actually start enjoying time with your ADHD child again!
FREE masterclass: https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass
JOIN here: https://www.responseableparenting.com/join
Live event dates: Jan 9-10th. 2 hours on Saturday / 2 hours on Sunday morning (9-11am PST). We take your chronic fight and your goal and we break down every step that needs to happen to make that goal a reality!
MINI COURSE:
Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight.
You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap
FREE RESOURCES!
Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back!
https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cardsGet the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day!
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STUDIES:
1. Sonuga-Barke, E. J. S. (2002). Psychological heterogeneity in AD/HD: A dual pathway model of behaviour and cognition. Behavioural Brain Research, 130(1-2), 29-36.
2. Jarrett, M. A., & Ollendick, T. H. (2008). A conceptual review of the comorbidity between ADHD and anxiety. Clinical Psychology Review, 28(7), 1266-1280.
3. Shaw, P., Stringaris, A., Nigg, J., & Leibenluft, E. (2014). Emotion dysregulation in attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. American Journal of Psychiatry, 171(3), 276-293. (Review of both children and adults.)
4. Arnsten, A. F. T. (2009). Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 10(6), 410-422. (General brain mechanism, not ADHD-specific.)
5. Berk, L. E., & Potts, M. K. (1991). Development and functional significance of private speech among attention-deficit hyperactivity disordered and normal boys. Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 19(3), 357-377.
6. Barkley, R. A. (1997). Behavioral inhibition, sustained attention, and executive functions: Constructing a unifying theory of ADHD. Psychological Bulletin, 121(1), 65-94.
7. Reynolds, S., & Lane, S. J. (2009). Sensory overresponsivity and anxiety in children with ADHD. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 63(4), 433-440.
8. Kohls, G., Herpertz-Dahlmann, B., & Konrad, K. (2009). Hyperresponsiveness to social rewards in children and adolescents with ADHD. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 5, 20.
9. Fabiano et al. (2025), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. Daily Report Card RCT, already in your grid under Motivation.
10. Bushman, B. J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame? Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(6), 724-731. (College students, not ADHD.)